书名：Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children为孩子立界线
作者：Henry Cloud；John Townsend
出版社名称：Zondervan
出版时间：2001
语种：英文
ISBN：9780310243151
商品尺寸：13.9 x 1.6 x 21.6 cm
包装：平装
页数：226
Boundaries with Kids《为孩子立界线》让父母有勇气何时该说“不可以”，有智慧教孩子明白什么是“可以”。跟孩子立界线，学习为自己的行为负责；建构孩子合乎道德的生活，自由地留心行为的后果；负责任地在爱中成长。

作者系心理医师，也是美国广受欢迎的“新生命”广播节目主持人，用生动实例，简易原则，经验分享，把教养孩子的观念及帮助孩子设定适当的界线，倾囊相授。本书可帮助众多父母发现教养上的盲点。

本书适用于从事婴幼儿到青少年教育的工作人员、教师、教练、托幼保姆、青少年辅导员及父母们。

What the award-winning Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for you and your children Here is the help you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. Learn how to
• set limits and still be a loving parent
• bring control to an out-of-control family life
• apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting
• define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids… and much more.

Review
“Boundaries with Kids helps us give our kids the skills they need to live realistic and full lives in meaningful relationships. Not perfect—but healthy!”  — Elisa Morgan, president of MOPS International, Inc.
Boundaries with Kids《为孩子立界线》由三篇组成。
第1篇，“孩子为何需要界线”——综览帮助孩子学习负责任的重要性。它描绘出有界线的成熟孩子看起来像什么样子；也描绘了有界线的父母本身，会有什么样的举止及相关的事情。

第2篇，“孩子需要知道的界线十律”——讨论这十条界线法则。你可从中学习到，不仅要“教导”孩子界线，更要自己“成为”界线并承担后果，来帮助孩子认识到他的生活是他自己的问题，不是你的问题。

第3篇，“与孩子立界线的实践”——以六个步骤来实践与孩子所定的明确而实际的界线，作为本书的总结。
亨利·克劳德博士（Dr. Henry Cloud），约翰·汤森德博士（Dr. John Townsend），他们合著金章奖百万畅销书《过犹不及》（Boundaries），家有两位正值青春期的小孩。他是全国性广播电台节目“新生命”（New Life Live！）的主持人之一，“克劳德和汤森德资源中心”（Cloud-Towsend Resources）的创始者之一，也是许多畅销书的作者，包括：《为婚姻立界线》（Boundaries in Marriage）《为孩子立界线》（Boundaries with Kids）《界线对谈——Face to Face》（How to Have That Difficult Vonveersation Youve been Avoiding）等。

Dr. Henry Cloudis an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times best-selling author. In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. Cloud works with both Fortune 500 companies and smaller private businesses. He has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy.

It was a normal day, but one that would forever change my friend’s parenting.
We had finished dinner, and I (Dr. Cloud) was visiting with my friend. Allison, and her husband, Bruce, when she left the dinner table to do some chores. Bruce and I continued to talk until a phone call took him away as well, so I went to see if I could lend Allison a hand.
I could hear her in their fourteen-year-old son Cameron’s room. I walked in to a scene that jolted me. She was cheerfully putting away clothes and sports equipment and making the bed. She struck tip a conversation as if things were normal: “I can’t wait for you to see the pictures from our trip. It was so much— “What are you doing?” I asked.
“I’m cleaning tip Cameron s room, she said. What does it look like I’m doing?”
“You are what?”
“I told you. I’m cleaning tip his room. Why are you looking at me like that?”
All I could do was to share with her the vision in my head. “I just feel sorry for Cameron’s future wife.”
Allison straightened up, froze for a moment, and then hurried from the room. I walked into the hail to see her standing there motionless. Not knowing what to say, I said nothing. After a few
moments, she looked at me and said, “I’ve never thought about it that way.”
Nor have most of us. We parent in the present without thinking about the future. We usually deal with the problems at hand. Making it through an afternoon without wanting to send our children to an eight-year camp in Alaska seems like a huge accomplishment! But one goal of parenting is to keep an eye on the future. We are raising our children to be responsible adults.
Parents interact with their children in a way that comes naturally to them. For example, Allison was by nature a helper,” and she gladly helped her son. Others have different parenting styles. Some, who are more laid back and uninvolved, leave their son’s room alone. Those who are stricter inflict heavy punishment for a less than regulation-made bed.