书名：Boundaries过犹不及：如何建立你的心理界线
作者：Henry Cloud；John Townsend
出版社名称：Zondervan
出版时间：2017
语种：英文
ISBN：9780310351801
商品尺寸：13.9 x 2.4 x 21.6 cm
包装：平装
页数：320
★亨利·克劳德博士、约翰·汤森德博士，美国著名心理医师和讲师
★美国“ECPA金钟畅销百万书奖”

知道什么时候说好，什么时候说不，掌握你的生活。
界线深深地影响我们生活的各个层面
身体上的界线：帮助我们决定，在何种情况下，谁可以碰我们的身体?
心理上的界线：给予我们拥有个人思想与见解的自由。
情绪上的界线：帮助我们处理自己的情绪。避免来自别人有害与操纵性的情绪。
属灵上的界线：帮助我们分辨上帝的意念与个人的意愿有何不同。

在当今这个快节奏、竞争激烈的都市生活时代，个体生命面对瞬息万变快速流动的生活洪流，常常会陷入迷惘、困惑，甚至失控和崩溃的状况。心理问题和心理救助成为日渐凸显的普遍社会问题。Boundaries《过犹不及：如何建立你的心理界线》在深厚的心理学知识基础上，列举了大量案例解析和论述了如何在纷繁的社会关系中建立个人的心理界限，或者说建立个人对现实生活的判断标准，并以此确定自己的行为准则，这对于当今社会大众，是非常有用的“他山之石”。

To regain control of your life, you’ve never needed Boundaries more than you do today in today’s always-on, always-connected digital world.
Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend wrote the New York Times bestselling book on Boundaries—the personal property lines that define who you are and who you are not, and influence all areas of your life—physically, emotionally, spiritually. And now, over 2 million changed lives later, Cloud & Townsend have updated and expanded this bestseller with essential guidance for setting Boundaries in today’s digital age.
If you’ve ever wondered: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty when I consider setting boundaries? Unpacking the 10 laws of boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend give you biblically based answers to these and other tough questions, and show you how to set healthy boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, coworkers, and even with yourself.
In Boundaries, Drs. Cloud and Townsend show you how to bring new health to your relationships. You’ll discover firsthand how to reclaim your freedom to walk as the loving, giving, fulfilled individual God created you to be.
你的生活失控了吗？别人老是占你的便宜吗？你很难向别人说“不”吗？你因为上帝没有回应你的祷告而失望吗？人们常常专注在要有爱心、避免自私自利，却忘记自己的有限和界线。
他们往往会问：“对别人设界线不是很自私吗？”、“我要怎么回答那些需要我爱心、精力、金钱帮助的人呢？”、“为什么设立界线会让我感到愧疚或恐惧？”、“我可以在设限后仍是个有爱心的人吗？”……

想要有一个平衡健全的生活，明确的“界线”是很重要的，它是个人产权的分界线，指出你应该为哪些东西负责。它可以定义你是什么，或者，你不是什么。
亨利·克劳德、约翰·汤森德：他们是美国广受欢迎的讲员、知名作家与执业心理医师，并共同主持全美播出的心理咨询节目“新生命”（New Life Live），也合办讲习会、研究中心与教会训练小组。
两人毕业自同一所心理学研究院（Rose-mead Graduate School of Psychology），获临床心理学博士学位，也在加州新港滩合开心理辅导诊所。他们是许多畅销书的作者，包括《过犹不及》、《为孩子立界线》、《为约会立界线》等。
Dr. Henry Cloudis an acclaimed leadership expert, psychologist, and New York Times best-selling author. In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. Cloud works with both Fortune 500 companies and smaller private businesses. He has an extensive executive coaching background and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEOs, leadership teams, and executives to improve performance, leadership skills, and culture. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy.
6:00 A.M.
The alarm jangled. Bleary-eyed from too little sleep, Sherrie shut off the noisy intruder, turned on the bedside lamp, and sat up in bed. Looking blankly at the wall, she tried to get her bearings.
Why am I dreading this day? Lord, didn’t you promise me a life of joy?
Then, as the cobwebs left her mind, Sherrie remembered the reason for her dread: the four-o’clock meeting with Todd’s third-grade teacher. The phone call returned to her memory: “Sherrie, this is Jean Russell. I wonder if we could meet about Todd’s performance and his... behavior.”
Todd couldn’t keep still and listen to his teachers. He didn’t even listen to Sherrie and Walt. Todd was such a strong-willed child, and she didn’t want to quench his spirit. Wasn’t that more important?
“Well, no time to worry about all that,” Sherrie said to herself, raising her thirty-five-year-old body off the bed and padding to the shower. “I’ve got enough troubles to keep me busy all day.”
Under the shower, Sherrie’s mind moved out of first gear. She began mentally ticking off the day’s schedule. Todd, nine, and Amy, six, would have been a handful even if she weren’t a working mother.
“Let’s see... fix breakfast, pack two lunches, and finish sewing Amy’s costume for the school play. That will be a trick—finishing sewing the costume before the car pool picks her up at 7:45 A.M.”
Sherrie thought regretfully about last night. She’d planned to work on Amy’s costume then, using her talents to make a special day for her little girl. But her mother had dropped over unexpectedly. Good manners dictated that she play hostess, and another eve- fling was shot. The memories of her attempts to salvage the time weren’t pretty.
Trying to be diplomatic, Sherrie artfully told her mother, “You can’t imagine how much I enjoy your surprise visits, Mom! But I was wondering, would you mind if I sew Amy’s costume while we talk?” Sherrie cringed inwardly, correctly anticipating her mother’s response.
“Sherrie, you know I’d be the last to intrude on your time with your family.” Sherrie’s mother, widowed for twelve years, had elevated her widowhood to the status of martyrdom. “1 mean, since your father died, it’s been such an empty time. I still miss our family. How could I deprive you of that for yourself?”
I’ll bet I find out how, Sherrie thought to herself.