（《星际迷航》演员尼莫伊之子回忆录）人性的：与我的父亲莱纳德·尼莫伊和解 The Most Human：Reconciling with My Father, Leonard Nimoy

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Format:Hardback 272 pages, Illustrations, unspecified

Publisher:Chicago Review Press

Imprint:Chicago Review Press

ISBN:9780915864737

Published:4 Jun 2024

Weight:564g

Dimensions:163 x 237 x 26 (mm)

页面参数仅供参考，具体以实物为准

书籍简介

和爸爸住在一起就像和一个陌生人住在一起——小时候，我经常很难和他沟通和相处。但我一直为他感到骄傲。

甚至在《星际迷航》之前，我就看到他在我喜欢的一些电视节目中出演配角，比如《糊涂侦探》、《海底总动员》和《秘密特工》。后来有一天晚上，他带回家一张他正在拍摄的试播剧的宝丽来照片，照片中他化着妆，穿着衣服。那是 1964 年 12 月，没有人听说过《星际迷航》。不过，八岁的我已经看过足够多的《外部极限》和《我喜欢的火星人》，完全明白我在看什么。

斯波克很快就走红了，有杂志很快开始写爸爸的私生活，把我们描述成一个“亲密的家庭”。但我们早期关系中的尴尬发展成了冲突，有时是阴云密布的，有时是公开而激烈的。在争吵和受伤的感情之间偶尔会闪现出温暖的光芒——甚至类似于爱——尤其是当我们庆祝父亲取得的许多成功时。其余时间，我们之间的关系经常很紧张。

我对父亲的怨恨多年来不断积累。我现在知道，我并非无可指责，但我的怨恨蒙蔽了我，让我看不到自己对这个问题的贡献。

我希望孩子们的情况有所不同。我想成为我从未有过的父亲，所以我当了玛蒂的足球教练，开车送乔纳去上音乐课，帮助他们做作业——所有父亲应该做的事情。所有我想做的事情。如果我和父亲疏远多年，那又怎么样？我过着一天算一天的生活。

然后我收到了他的信。

那标志着我们生活的转折点，为我们之间的新关系扫清了道路。

Living with Dad was like living with a stranger―as a kid I often had trouble connecting and relating to him. But I was always proud of him.

Even before Star Trek I’d see him popping up in bit roles on some of my favorite TV shows like Get Smart, Sea Hunt, and The Man From U.N.C.L.E. And then one night he brought home Polaroids of himself in makeup and wardrobe for a pilot he was working on. It was December 1964 and nobody had heard of Star Trek. Still, the eight-year-old me had watched enough Outer Limits and My Favorite Martian to understand exactly what I was looking at.

Spock’s popularity happened quickly, and soon the fan magazines were writing about dad’s personal life, characterizing us as a “close family.” But the awkwardness that defined our early relationship blossomed into conflict, sometimes smoldering, sometimes open and intense. There were occasional flashes of warmth between the arguments and hurt feelings―even something akin to love―especially when we were celebrating my father’s many successes. The rest of the time, things between us were often strained.

My resentment towards my father kept building through the years. I wasn’t blameless, I know that now, but my bitterness blinded me to any thought of my own contribution to the problem.

I wanted things to be different for my families. I wanted to be the father I never had, so I coached Maddy’s soccer, drove Jonah to music lessons, helped them with their homework―all the things dads are supposed to do. All the things I wanted to do. So what if my Dad and I had been estranged for years? I was living one day at a time.

And then I got his letter.

That marked a turning point in our lives, a moment that cleared the way for a new relationship between us.

作者简介

亚当·尼莫伊毕业于加州大学伯克利分校和洛约拉法学院。在娱乐法领域工作了七年后，他离开去从事导演事业。尼莫伊执导了超过 45 小时的网络电视节目，并执导了一部广受好评的关于他父亲的纪录片。《斯波克之爱》（2016 年）是翠贝卡电影节的官方入选作品。他出现在《纽约时报》的文章“大胆探索星际迷航的犹太根源”中，并在《波士顿环球报》上发表了一篇关于他与父亲关系的父亲节文章。他是《我难以置信的美好而悲惨的生活》一书的作者，并且已经进行了 12 步康复治疗二十年。

Adam Nimoy is a graduate of UC Berkeley and Loyola Law School. After seven years in entertainment law, he left to pursue a directing career. Nimoy has directed over forty-five hours of network television, as well as directing the critically acclaimed documentary film about his father. For the Love of Spock (2016) was the Official Selection at the Tribeca Film Festival. He was featured in the New York Times article "To Boldly Explore Roots of Star Trek" and he published a Father's Day piece about his relationship with his father for the Boston Globe. He is the author of My Incredibly Wonderful, Miserable Life and has been in 12-step recovery for twenty years.